Topic V. New methods of bringing up children
Active vocabulary that must be used:
desire to get knowledge
to feel a strong necessity to transfer knowledge to smb
requirements of society
focus attention on the child’s personality
good school must fit a child, not a child fit the school
to have an opportunity not only to study but to develop
to be concerned about smth
to inherent the life
to hold dear some values
expectations for the future
to become a market force
to be bombarded by smth
advertisements on television
right to be entertained every waking moment
to be bored by the lessons
to be irrelevant to life
to perceive smth
to be highly competitive
to be pushed by smb to achieve everything at all costs
to right all wrongs
hollow hippy phrases
to look at smb regardless of smth
to seek the help of psychiatrists
to blame smth/smb for smth
teenage suicide
to be born a reasonable friendly human being
to have obsessive ambitions
to dedicate one’s life to smth
to intimidate smb
mature people
to multiply smth
individual genetic potential
to grow in direct proportion to smth
proper stimulation
to write smth on flashcards
simultaneously reciting the words written on the card
to treat child’s mind as a sponge
to read everything in sight
to perform staggering mathematical stunts
to distinguish and analyze works of classical composers
docile uncreative children
to fit the civilization whose standard of success is money
to give smb freedom to be oneself
to live the life according to the purpose of educator
to produce the generation of robots
to force children to learn
purpose of educator
to be capable to do smth / to be capable of doing smth
Approximate / average topic:
New methods of bringing up children
Schools have always been the life and sole of any educated and cultured society. The desire to get knowledge was inherent even to ancient people. We can say that at that very historical moment when our ancient ancestor began to feel himself a part of a large world and began to investigate this immense world he might have felt a strong necessity to transfer his knowledge to future generations. As the centuries were changing one another schools were also changing due to the requirements of this or that society.
In our days schools all over the world focus their attention on the child’s personality. As the director of one school said “a good school must fit a child, not a child fit the school”. During school years children must have an opportunity not only to study but to develop. As adults we are concerned about the life that the children inherent, the values they held dear and their expectations for the future. Childhood actually lasts only for a few years until children become a market force to be bombarded by the advertisements on television. Children demand to have all they see and regard it as their right to be entertained every waking moment. Most children are bored by the lessons which they see as irrelevant to life as they perceive it. They suppose that life is about to having fun and having fun now. On the other hand school is highly competitive and pupils are pushed by the parents to achieve everything at all costs.
The 1980s were the years when youth thought they could right all wrongs. But later all these ideas were viewed as hollow hippy phrases. It was undoubtedly a more selfish era with the individual to look after himself, regardless of the effect this might be having on others. In our days the new gods are money and materialism and teenagers want right now what it took their parents half a generation to achieve. No wonder there is drug abuse in our days on a scale never seem before. No wonder too many young people now seek the help of psychiatrists. Dr Benjamin Spock thinks that the world has gone to hell. He blames competitiveness for the extraordinary rise in teenage suicide over the last twenty years.
Speaking about some new and progressive methods of ubringing children it is worth mentioning some ideas of B. Spock who wrote that “Every baby is born to be a reasonable friendly human being”. Now a lot of parents have obsessive ambitions for creating better children, they dedicate their life to it. Why have a merely normal baby when you can have an improved model?
During the previous centuries and in the first half of the 20th century parents felt that they had to intimidate their children the way they were intimidated. Freud and Dewey changed that point of view. According to their theory – ‘not by disciplining or by intimidating the children you can make your children love you, but by loving them’. Children want to be worthy of their parents, they want to grow up to be mature people. Love between children and parents make children mature and responsible. Parents must learn to have more trust in their children. Glen Doman founded a Better Baby Institute, which organizes lectures and seminars for parents - the course was entitled “How to multiply your baby’s intelligence?”. After studying children for over forty years Doman had developed a brilliant, consistent and idiosyncratic brand of science that combined psychology, neurology and anthropology. He worked out 89 Cardinal facts for making any baby into a superb human being. Some of these cardinal points read for example: “Baby‘s individual genetic potential is that of Leonardo da Vinci, Mozart, Michelangelo, Edison and Einstein”. Until the age of six when brain growth slows, a child’s intellectual and physical abilities grow in direct proportion to stimulation and in case of proper stimulation we can get another Mozart, Michelangelo, Einstein. Dorman was also sure that any child would rather learn than eat, he would also rather learn Greek than baby talk - since higher orders of complexity offer more stimulation. Any child learns better than an adult. Parents must treat their babies not so much with respect as awe. The question about teaching technique is really important. For example you want to teach a six month old baby to read. You must write some familiar words in large clear letters on flashcards. Then show the cards to the baby five or six times a day, simultaneously reciting the word written on the card. Mrs DiBattista, for example, printed 9000 flashcards for her five-year-old son. And another mother Mrs Pereira took her time and made French and Spanish flashcards for the eleven-year-old son. Later both children showed great progress, they were socially excellent. The baby who has extraordinary retentive powers soon will be learning hundreds of words and then phrases. So we must treat child’s mind as a sponge. Dorman’s theory guarantees that by the age of three a child will be entertaining himself and amazing his parent’s friends by reading everything in sight. In the same way he can learn Math and perform staggering mathematical stunts or distinguish and analyze the works of the Great Masters or the classical composers.
So it is very important not what you teach but the way you do that. The school that makes active children sit at desks studying mostly useless subjects is a bad school. It is a good school only for those uncreative citizens who want docile uncreative children who will fit into a civilization whose standard of success is money. Children must be given freedom to be themselves. Teachers must believe in children as good not evil beings. The function of a child is to live his own life – not the life that his parents want him to live, not the life according to the purpose of educator who thinks he knows what is best. All the interference and guidance on the part of adults can only produce a generation of robots.
During the previous centuries parents strongly believed that they had to intimidate, to scold their children. Freud and Dewey changed that point of view. Freud said that it was not by disciplining and intimidating but by loving children that children love their parents, want to be worthy of them, want to grow up becoming mature and responsible people as their parents are. Dewey said that parents and teachers didn’t have to force their children to learn because children are just wild to learn. Parents must thrust themselves as parents on the one hand and trust their children on the other.
So there are so many methods of upbringing children in our days (both traditional and new ones) and I strongly believe that the purpose of any educator is to try and analyze each new and interesting theory, taking all the good it provides to parents and teachers. It will help to bring up active and smart children capable of thinking and making their own decisions.